Parent & Child group
Our morning rhythm is simple with very similar structure: creative free play, busy parents do an activity, like making our snack, chopping fruit, making bread and children float between playing and perhaps wanting to 'help' the adults. After tidy up time there is a time of coming together as a group singing songs and rhymes, after which we wash hands ready for snack; this is followed by outside time in the garden. We close the session with a goodbye circle and for the older children a story. The children soon get to know and enjoy the rhythm as a result of settling in and feeling safe and secure. If possible, please arrive on time. Your child will then respond well to the rhythm of the morning and you will not feel you are rushing to catch up.
The mood is of reverence. Emphasis on quiet and calm. This gives peace and freedom to the child. Adults, please don't play with your children, allow them to explore and enter creative play by themselves. This is so beneficial for their intelligence and imagination.
Work and Play
The adults are encouraged, once the children are settled in their free play, to join a craft or domestic activity. We explain that the adult at work, engaged and absorbed in an activity will free the child even more!
Play is the work of the child.
Children a little older, will naturally want to not only watch but try to imitate the adults and help.
The leader may choose not to have activities for the children; we work with imitation and play is the children 's way to express this.
Arrival, activities and free play
When the children arrive they change into their slippers and there is an hour of free play where they can explore the toys and found objects, which they use to represent so many imaginative things. There is also an activity around the table in which the parents and group leader will take part, and the children join in if they wish. As young children love to imitate, it is only necessary to perform the activity and only guide the children if they ask.
The power of imitation
Rudolf Steiner (an Austrian philosopher who founded the Steiner movement) believed that children, particularly aged 0-7 learn through imitation. Often we find that children follow songs and gestures much more willingly than the sound of a nagging voice! There is no compulsion for your child to join the activity, though parents and carers have found it very enjoyable for themselves (and sometimes we forget to have fun for ourselves as parents) to come together to bake, sew, paint and so on round the table. Your child will watch you and join in when he or she is ready. And please feel free to take your results home with you. Again, please don't ask the children if they want to do an activity, don't ask what they want to do! We suggest you say something like 'mommy is going to chop some vegetables for the soup', and wait to see if the child is happy to carry on playing or follow...
Behind the simplicity of painting… guidance
When painting and drawing however, we try to leave the child to express their own will. As far as possible please avoid talking and explaining, drawing shapes and pictures for them. This allows the child to just be and just do for the sake of doing. We don't intellectualize anything at this stage of their development. We rather give the meaning through action; the children are able to pick up the essence of things.
To transition away from play and activity time,together we sing “time to tidy away, time to tidy away, end of all our play, play another day” or “I met a little tidy mouse, he said let’s tidy up this house, tidy, tidy, tidy, here and there, tidy tidy everywhere.” As us parents/adults slowly tidy the room getting ready for our ring time, it’s amazing how the children respond to our singing, imitate and love to put things away – much more than if they are simply told to tidy. For them it’s a game and not a chore. It is most helpful if parents please take care to put things in the correct place, many families welcome the influence of this activity to instill good tidying habits at home as well.
Ring time transition
When the leader starts to sing “Who’ll come in to my small ring, my small ring, my small ring, Who’ll come in to my small ring, and make it a little bit bigger?” to the tune of “Here we go round the mulberry bush” children eagerly join hands for our Ring time. Here is a moment of “breathing in” where you can encourage your child to be with us in the circle.
Snack time transition with hand washing
To close ring time we sing “This is the way we wash our hands”, children respond by running over to the bowls of soapy water. Please remember to roll up your child’s sleeves as children love to plunge their little hands in the warm water!
“Polly put the kettle on” moves us to the table where the children learn to sit quietly for their snack. Our (non denominational) blessing is “Blessings on the blossoms and blessings on the fruit. Blessings on the leaves and stems and blessings on the root.” (Then spoken) Blessings on the food.” At the end of the snack we all join hands and saying “Thank you for the food, thank you for the food!”
We try to go out whatever the weather unless it’s absolutely pouring. Children move their limbs differently outside and love to dig, play with water, jump and move about freely. You can make sure that your child wears appropriate clothing so that he or she will not get cold or wet.
Finally we sit in a cosy circle for our story. For a calm and safe space it’s important that children sit with their parent or on their bottoms on the cushions without touching the story. If that seems impossible then you could take them to another part of the room, carry on outside play or if your child needs to leave, then by all means don’t feel you have to stay. Eventually (and it took my eldest a long time) children do learn to sit and watch and listen, again imitation of the bigger children and the adults works well. We pass a bowl of light around the circle and we show the children how to take the light to our hearts as we sing “Candle light, candle light, coming down to earth, Shining here in our corner, oh so nice and bright!”
After the story, the Story Gnome says goodbye to all the children; “Time to go home, time to go home, All of the children are waving goodbye. Time to go home, time to go home, Mummies and Daddies are waving goodbye, goodbye.”
It can be truly challenging organizing a group of young toddlers with their movement impulses and try to maintain a calm and peaceful atmosphere:
this is something your leader will constantly be striving for.
As mentioned before, imitation is such a powerful motivator, what one parent allows their children to do, can be quickly copied by the rest of the group.
The second stage of this is the children believing this impolite behaviour is part of the structured rhythm, and so recalls and repeats it the following week.
Examples of this are:
running, hitting, jumping on to furniture/table at any time during the session.
banging bowls/hands on table whilst waiting for snack,
Hiding under tables, playing, running back and forth during singing and jumping up onto tables,
leaving the table during snack time and start playing, with maybe food in their mouths/hands...
Bringing your own toys; please try not to, simply creates sharing issues...also they often get forgotten!
The leaders think it is best to dampen this behaviour, before it gets to this stage as it becomes harder to stamp out later.
As far as parent etiquette goes, there are few simple requests:
Please use a quieter voice than normal whilst attending.
With so many children, and so many chatting mums, the noise can escalate quickly.
This rising level of sound carries a chaotic feel, and as the noise increases many children show distress and start shouting as well.
By harnessing the power of imitation, if parents can try to keep their voices down, the children will follow.
Please do not text or ring or take snaps with mobile phones inside the session.
If you need to make a phone call, please do so in the lobby so as not to disturb others.
We try to encourage parents to come and enjoy the session and be as stress free as possible; this also means to be relaxed about their children getting wet, sandy or dirty.
To avoid this, please dear parents come prepared, warm layers and full waterproofs for outside time and for indoor...spare clothes.
The children do need to experience being part of the group fully, involving getting mucky and experiencing all different weathers, using all their senses to explore and learn; this is their 'play'.
The group uses candles to teach reverence. This carries some risks and we ask all parents and carers to pay special attention when we are interacting with the candle flame.Leaders will not use open flame but simple tea lights in lanterns, always ensuring they are in the safest place in the room.
In case of Fire
The fire assembly point is in the rear garden by the shed. The fire doors require a good hard shove and they release in the case of a fire.
If you have any questions please feel free to ask your group leader or assistant. Thank you for your presence which helps to create the uniqueness of these sessions.
Each day's session is unique for many reasons:the leader will bring his/her personal style and because each session has the regular families coming; this means the parents and the children form a bond.
Parent and Child sessions are non selective and inclusive, we welcome everyone who wants to experience groups with a Steiner inspired approach.
Nannies/ Childminders are very welcome, daddies, mummies and grandparents often bring children and join in and truly enjoy our sessions!
Our sessions are based on free play for children and parents and carers stay and observe, socialize with other adults and learn about Waldorf crafts, seasonal songs and stories.